MY CHRISTMAS MESSAGE THE 64 TIPS TO HAVING A WONDERFUL,LOVING HARMONIOUS CHRISTMAS, HOLIDAY SEASON AND NEW YEAR 2011

Hello everyone. Let’s talk about Christmas shall we?

How many of you are all ready for Christmas?
How many are not?
How many are excitedly looking forward to Christmas?
How many are dreading it?
How many are worried about family members being happy during the holidays?
How many are worried about cooking the Turkey Dinner?
How many are worried about how many presents you have purchased?
And on and on it goes ------

Today is a great time for reflection
Looking back over the year and seeing what you can change, do differently, etc.

No failures – no mistakes – just miss-steps
There is no such thing as the absolute right way because every person does it differently. The right way could turn out to be the wrong way for another person. There is only the CHOSEN WAY.

Do you need to forgive? Has it been eating you up? If so now is the time to forgive and let go. Are you holding a grudge or anger towards another person?
Tell it that it is not welcome in your wonderful body and get rid of it.

Every single person has people and things in their lives that need forgiveness ---- even when they tell me they have nothing to forgive --- there is always that certain person or circumstance that disappointed or hurt you. I could be an inconsiderate driver that cut you off on the way here, that clerk, that telephone solicitor that interrupted your dinner, your spouse who is moody or cranky. The kids, the neighbors, etc. etc. and on and on it goes.

Let’s do some emotional house cleaning before the New Year arrives.

Also when you get rid of negative feelings you will have such a better and happier Christmas.

Today there is much going on in the world that is very frightening and affects the lives of all of us. Uncertainty and fear of the unknown is running rampant.

Now is time to forgive and get anchored.

LIGHT HOUSE STORY

Have you ever been in a Lighthouse? I have had the privilege of visiting the one at Point Atkinson, West Vancouver, Canada. I was very impressed with all the magnifying glasses, etc. that are used to magnify the light that shines from it. Also just think that that light that shines out onto the ocean, to guide ships and people is not the least bit affected by the raging seas, stormy conditions, high winds, etc. No because it is of a different frequency.

If we can become centered and peaceful going back to source, God, Universal Mind, Higher Self or whomever you believe in and become so centered we can be like that Light House light that shines out into the world, not affected by the bad news of recession, cut-back, lay-offs, dirty politics, etc. etc., but we can hold steadfast in our beliefs and convictions – just think how powerful that is.

THE B I G ONE FORGIVENESS EXERCISE
THE EXTENDED TOOTHBRUSH EXERCISE
It goes like this---

Just after you have brushed your teeth or while brushing your teeth, look into the mirror and say, “Hey Self you are a mighty fine person. You are great, lovely, good looking,” etc. Then say, “I, (your name) now forgive everyone and everything that has ever hurt me. I now forgive myself. I love, respect and approve of myself just the way I am.”

This sets the scene for a happy Christmas Holiday or for any time of your life. When you say EVER it goes right back to creation -- when you were in your mother’s womb so if too many unhappy, negative memories surface, just say with great authority, “One at a time Please!” Then deal with that one and the next, etc. etc.

Make a clear slate for 2011. Decide that you will leave 2010’s baggage in 2010 – exactly where it belongs. You have a chance to do it all over again.

Never beat yourself up for what you deem mistakes, just say to yourself, “The next time I will do it differently,” and then do it!

You are the Captain of your Ship and the only decision maker in your world. Make this Christmas Holiday Season and coming 2011 the best ever in spite of what you hear and read. Look back in history and you will discover we, the people have been through difficult times, recessions before and survived. Find ways that you can survive in your own world, your own planet the only area over which you have complete control. You are in complete control of your thoughts, words and actions and perhaps it is time to sit up and take notice and take responsibility for your own thoughts, words, actions, etc.

Some people are suffering from a broken relationship or struggling with health or money issues and they find this a very depressing time of year.

There are people who need help, ones who are sad, depressed, feeling hopeless and lonely.

Others have lost a loved one. It is important to enjoy every time you have with your family and special people in your life on Christmas day or any time as you never know if that could be the last time you will see or be with that loved one.

It behooves you not to worry if you did not get the gift that you wanted. Do not sweat the small stuff. Never allow disappointment spoil the spirit, joy and meaning of Christmas. Remember you are the sole creator of your life. Create it as you wish. If you don’t like what is happening in your life today, then create something different. You created it and you and you alone have the power to ‘uncreate’ it.

It is a time to remember people less fortunate and to give, as you are able. If you are unable to give money, you can give of your time and energy by sending positive, happy thoughts to others in need, that helping hand or a cheery smile.

Remember you cannot change the whole world, but you can change your world, one new and positive thought, feeling, deed and action at a time.
And you are in complete control of your thoughts. No one can jump into your mind and think your thoughts for you, nor can you do that for anyone else.

I will be sharing ideas on how to create the best ever Christmas Presents even if you don't have a single cent in your pocket!

Yup, you guessed it right, make homemade presents. You'll be surprised how powerful this can be. It can be more powerful than giving your loved one a giant diamond ring.

When wrapping your homemade Christmas gifts, this year, stop and put thoughts of love into the wrapping paper and the gift itself. As you tie the brightly colored ribbons saturate them with thoughts of love, peace, joy and happiness.

Make up your own Christmas Traditions

One lady has her own Christmas tradition. She puts her kid’s first baby clothes--daughter's dress and son's sweater on the Christmas Tree, remembering Baby Jesus, who was born on Christmas day.

Another lady prepares green and red envelops and she writes on pieces of paper things she could offer her children that did not cost money such as – Going camping with them; spending time together; reading; drawing; fishing; just being; and different things that the children would want and enjoy.

She left some of the envelopes empty so that the children could fill them with their ideas and desires. She made Christmas gifts out of necessity that year which turned into enjoyment and fun for everyone.

Here we go...

64 Tips
For Having a Cheerful Christmas and New Years No Matter What !

1.
Take advantage of all the FREE activities during he Christmas Season. This can be a lot of fun and it takes the stress of thinking that you can’t afford it. Check out newspapers, flyers, etc. to see where and when.

2
Decorate your house. Bright cheery decorations have a way of encouraging happiness. Start your own Family Christmas Tradition.

3.
Be organized and have a back up plan when asking people to bring items for the Christmas Dinner.
For Example--if you ask someone to bring the cranberries, have some cranberries on hand just in case they forget. This little hint can make your life easier.

4.
Do things together as a family. Invite family members to help set the table for Christmas dinner. Pick out your Christmas Tree and decorate it together. Use the Sandwich Method to get family to participate.

One slice of praise –what you want them to do --- and the other slice of bread which is, "And you are such a good person and wonderful family member, I just know you want to do this, don’t you agree?"

5. Give the Gift of SHARE
S - Smile
H - Hope
A - Attitude
R - Real
E – Empathy

6.
Refrain from being focused on what gifts that you are receiving.

7.
Don't ruin your Christmas holidays by spreading gloom to others because you are unhappy that you did not get the gift you wanted for Christmas. There is another Christmas coming next year. Be happy with the gifts that you receive.

Speaking of Gifts
Enjoy the greatest gifts of all at Christmas

Watching children sit on Santa's knee
Watching your children or grandchildren on Christmas morning
Having a chat with a friend
Giving that busy Christmas shopper the gift of your smile
Just sharing a cheery greeting to another and I am sure you have many of your own to add here.

8.
When irate family members try to ruin your Christmas, just say, "Cancel, cancel, or Delete, delete that’s not true for me, I am happy," and never allow that negativity to go into your mind (computer) and you won't have to deal with it.

9.
Teach your children that giving is a part of receiving.

10.
Count your blessings and focus on them--the wonderful people and the good things in your life. Get up every morning and say, “Thank you God, Universal Mind, Higher Power or whomever you believe it. For this wonderful day and all my blessings, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you and live in attitude of gratitude.

11.
Give the gift of LOVE –
Visit that shut-in person
Offer your help in shopping
Offer baby sitting services
House Cleaning
Bake
Cook Christmas Dinner for shut-in and people that may need help.

12. Keep doing your Affirmations during this time. A good one would be--" I am happy and peaceful."

13.
Don't beat yourself up with 'could haves, should haves, why didn't I's' etc. and Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. Is it chatter or does it matter?

14.
Put on and wear your 'Special Christmas Smile.'

15.
Be prudent and do not overspend just because a person wants a special expensive present for Christmas. Be realistic.

16.
One of the best gifts you can give others is to love, respect and approve of yourself. This then gives them permission to do the same.
Give the gift of YOU!

17.
Take your happiness OFF lay-away. Enjoy it now. NOW is the only time we have.

18.
Practice Random Acts of Kindness on a daily basis.

19.
Give to the Empty Stock Fund, Food Bank, Salvation Army and other such organizations.

20.
Help out at a Soup Kitchen in your neighborhood. It is very therapeutic and rewarding.

21.
Ladies -- Take time for that long, soothing bubble bath or for men a brisk shower, exercise, walk, etc.

22.
Take time to read something positive. You may want to turn off the TV and not read the Newspaper during this positive, festive time.

23.
If you live alone, make yourself a special meal. Set the table with a holiday tablecloth and use your best china and silverware.

24.
Beauty is everywhere--take time to find it. And when you find beauty, ask it to multiply and send it out into every corner of the world by your thoughts.

25.
Remember that even when life looks its blackest, there are still wonderful things around us if we choose to focus on them. When things become difficult and you are facing challenges visualize on the back of your ring these four words, ‘THIS TOO SHALL PASS!’ and it does!

26.
Be clear and focus on what is most important in your and release all negativity.

27.
Do a check to see what you have been focusing on. If it is negativity, change it immediately. You have the creative power within you.

28.
Help a family member and/or friend paint or decorate his or her home.

29.
Give a Gift Certificate entitling the bearer to 10 complimentary rides, wherever they wish to go.

30.
Give to the Christmas Hampers. And invite that person who is alone at Christmas to share in your Christmas festivities. You may wish to invite a handicapped person or any person for a ride and show them the bright, beautiful Christmas Decoration.

31.
HOME MADE GIFTS
Knit a warm sweater, scarf or mitts for a homeless person. And make home made Christmas Gifts teaching children how to do this as well. I always feel that home made gifts are so very special because it says to me that that person took the time, energy and made it especially for me!

Make a Christmas Album for Family
Bake a cake
Make fudge

Home Made Christmas Affirmation Bracelets
GREEN – Money
BLUE - Healing
LOVE - Pink
PURPLE/WHITE – Spirituality
ORANGE – Energy

Or mix the beads up with all colors. It is your choice.
Home made Christmas Decorations - string popcorn, etc.
Remember the Real Gift is Y O U !

Start Your Own New Traditions
Wrap a candle in newspaper
Wrap a candle in nice wrapping
Start having hot chocolate on Christmas Morning
Before opening your gifts on Christmas Day, read the Christmas Story from the Bible. Please add you own.

Always remembering that in spite of all the outer wrappings, action, etc. is the real Y O U the greatest gift of all!

32.
Yield the right of way to another driver. Also show courtesy and consideration and most of all patience!

33.
When you begin to get impatient, stop and say to yourself, "If I react in a negative and angry manner what effect could that have on that person's life?"

34.
Give honest appreciation. A little bit of appreciation goes a long way, especially during these busy, hectic Christmas Shopping days. There is a great difference between flattery and honest appreciation.

35.
Be extra aware of others and their feelings and don’t take things so seriously and feel that they are aimed at you.

36.
If a person is grumpy, do not jump to the conclusion that it is aimed at you or take it personally, just know that he or she may have something going on in his or her life that is irritating, annoying or they could be experiencing worry or some physical pain or discomfort.

37.
Do some Christmas forgiving - if you're not sure how to do this please go to my website www.annemarieevers.com and check out my book, Affirmations Your Passport to Happiness. Forgiveness heals even the deepest of wounds. You only hurt yourself if you don't forgive.

38.
Forgive that family member and/or situation that you are upset with. Forgiveness benefits mostly the person doing the forgiving!

39.
Focus on how you can improve yourself and your life - Tell yourself things are getting better starting right here, right now.

Make a list of 10 things you can do right now to improve your life.
Then read it over, study it and then DO IT!

40.
Go to church. Some churches have the Christmas Tree Method, made up of members of the choir standing in a particular place with a lit candle that creates the form of a gigantic bright, lit up Christmas Tree. It is a beautiful sight to see.

Enjoy hearing and seeing the Christmas Story being acted out with Joseph, Mary and the Baby Jesus in the Manger, the wise men, shepherds, etc.

41.
Be amongst people- Family and close friends. Move out of your comfort zone and attend functions that uplift you.

42.
Bring in Christmas smells, like the fresh smell of pine trees, and scented candles.

43.
Bake together with your family – Sing Carols together.

44.
Do an Affirmation for a Happy Christmas Holiday. Take a picture o of your whole family (A happy picture) and put it on a piece of paper and under it write.

“Every member of my family including me are all considerate, kind, happy, peaceful and harmonious and we enjoy wonderful family gatherings together to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you.” I fully accept
Signed ____________________ Dated ____________

Encourage all members of the family to sign it. Keep it were it is visible and every one can see it.Remember your mind takes in every word and does not differentiate between a real and imagined event.

Also another idea is to make place cards at the table and sit people that usually get along well next to each other. This can make a huge difference in the Christmas dinner.

45.
It is important to spend time with people, but there are times when it is not possible and in a situation like that it is good to experience what being with yourself is like.

Pay attention to your breath; look outside at the moon, stars and entire solar system. Think of the wonderful magnetic power of it all. Become aware of others and most of all become comfortable with yourself. You need alone time to get acquainted with YOU--the most important person in your Universe! No, that is NOT selfish. It is not selfish to have and enjoy a healthy, balanced, Divine love of self. In the Bible it tells us to love our neighbors AS ourselves.

46.
Enjoy some quiet time. Read book, listen to music, nourish your soul, do things that are comforting to you.

47.
Light a candle and watch it burn.

Pink for romantic and family love;
Red for energy and vitality;
Green for peace and prosperity;
White for spiritual;
Blue for health.
Burn one candle at a time and focus on the flame and your intention and wish.

48.
Meditate—If you have never meditated before, keep it simple.

Clear your mind
Find a quiet place
Close your eyes
Repeat one word over and over. That word is ‘Peaceful, Peaceful.' When other thoughts come just allow them to come and go while focusing on that powerful word peaceful. I do it all the time and it works great for me.

49.
Ask The Christmas Angel to be with you, your family and your time together at Christmas and always. The name of the Christmas Angel that I communicate with is Angelica.

50.
Do not be so worried about buying Christmas gifts. Christmas is not all about gifts; it is also about family and friends being together sharing, caring and enjoying happy fellowship.The amount of money that you spend on a gift should not be the most important thing.

51.
Stop focusing on what you are getting for Christmas spend more time around the Tree and singing family carols, etc.. Think of ways you can ease another’s burdens or load. What can I do to help that person?

Hints for Donating
When you see a person sitting on the street begging for money and if you wish to donate, gently bend down and with love give that gift. I have seen people standing and throwing or dropping money at a person and I think to myself – But for the Grace of God there go all of us.

52.
Loving self-- Become a ‘Love Magnet’ to the right people and right circumstances always remembering to give the greatest gift that you can give and that is ‘The Gift of Yourself!'

53.
Decide to be happy. Get up in the morning and say, "Today, I am happy."

54.
Have a budget when spending at the Holiday Season and stick with it and don't overspend. If you do, you may find yourself suffering from the January 2011 Blues!

Be aware that we live in a Universe of Universal Laws. One of the Universal Laws is the Law of Cause and Effect. In this case what you spend is the cause and the effect of that is the bills coming in to be paid. Always affirm and maintain balance in your life in every thing you do.

55.
Call a friend whom you have not talked to lately. Practice Empathic Listening. We were given two ears and one mouth at birth. Listen and really hear what that person is saying. Do not be so focused on what you are going to say next that you do not hear what they are saying. One good way to let others know you are listening is to ask pertinent questions and then wait silently and sometimes patiently for the answers.

56.
Realize that there are ups and downs and rhythms and go with that rhythm and let yourself relax and be who you are. Never compare yourself or your situation with others. Be thrilled to be WHO you are and when seeking that special romantic love partner, I suggest that –YOU BE WHO YOU WISH TO ATTRACT!

57.
When disappointed with the actions of others, look at what your expectations are. Then ask yourself –

Is this reasonable, why does it have to be that way?
Who appointed me to write another’s earthy exams?
Why am I attempting to control others?
Am I too rigidly attached to my old beliefs and expectations?"
If the answers are 'Yes,' you have the power to change all that starting right here and right now!TODAY!

58.
Think about things in a different way. Be open to new possibilities. Listen to other’s opinions, ideas and suggestions and take those that resonate with you and incorporate them into your life.

Don't expect too much of others or expect them to act as you do. Expand your mind. Be open to learning new things.

59.
Do the Magic Magnetic Circle Process

Magic Magnetic Christmas Circle Exercise

Get up in the morning, stretch, take several deep breaths, breathing out negativity and breathing in positivity, happiness, peace and joy. Stand in front of the window and with both your arms outstretched from your sides, turn slowly around from left to right (clockwise) and say,

"I, (your name), now magnetize from the Creator of all, sun, moon, stars, the entire solar system and the entire Universe into my Magic Magnetic Circle (my aura), peace, joy, love, health, happiness and prosperity to myself, which extends to everyone I meet. This is done to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I fully accept this Affirmation on this date.”
And so it is!

Then go on about your day and really see and feel how different you experience your daily life. Let me know how it goes. annemarieevers@shaw.ca

60.
When you are upset with a situation, say to your negative feelings, “Cancel, cancel, this is not true-- I am peaceful, happy and fulfilled." These words have helped me through many a crisis and unhappy situation in my life.

61.
Go out doors --Go for walk--Get fresh Air. You never know what you will see -you may see something that renews, encourages, gives you hope, and makes you happy.

62.
If you are where there is snow--Have a fun sleigh ride together enjoy, laugh and have fun. Make a Snow Angel. Make a Snowman, Santa Claus and Mrs. Claus and the Elves--enjoy.

63.
Enjoy a hot chocolate in front of the fireplace with your special person and/or family. Totally relax your entire body.

64.
Look for and enjoy the wonderful, free things of life.

Stop and enjoy AND bless a pretty flower, a tree, mountain, stream or any of God's Creations. Enjoy nature, parks, creeks, mountains, the air we breathe the sun, etc.

Hug a Tree and see what happens. When I do this, I actually feel the tree hugging me back!!!

A Special Affirmation for Christmas and New Years

"I, (your name), deserve and now am happy and fulfilled. I greet every day with excited expectancy and enthusiasm. I am grateful to be alive and present here on planet earth at this time. I do my Magic Magnetic Circle Method daily and bring my heart's desires to me.

I share my happiness and prosperity with others. I know that to be prosperous, I must help others prosper too! I am loving, kind and at peace. I practice Random Acts of Kindness on a daily basis. I am loved by the special people in my life. I am loving, lovable and loved.

I forgive and let go of all negativity, unhappiness, disappointment and hurts from the past and I now walk into my circle of happiness. I make this Christmas, Holiday Season New Year 2011 the best ever! I am alive, I am making a positive difference in the world one new, positive, and happy thought at a time!

I am here, present in the now and I count. I am happy and fulfilled to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you."
I fully accept
Signed _____________________Dated ________________

When you date and sign this Master Affirmation, you have made a firm and binding contract with Your Higher Self, God, Creator, Universal Mind or whomever you believe it.

A FURTHER WORD ABOUT HARMONY OVER THE HOLIDAY SEASON

CHRISTMAS SPRAY

Get a small spray bottle; fill it with water and a fragrance. With masking tape write on it – ‘Special Christmas Cheer’. Spray your home before your guests arrive. If you become negative--spray your negative thoughts.

Talk to each family member, ask questions about their life and then STOP! Be quiet and really listen with your inner ear to what each one is saying.

MY VERSION OF CHRISTMAS P U N C H

C - Courage Have the courage to expect the best in everything;
H - Happy Practice and make it a habit of thinking, feeling and being happy;
R - Recognize The differences in everyone – especially at this time of the year
– the differences in family members;
I - Interest Show interest in others, what they are saying and give them the
gift of really listening and hear what they are saying;
S - Simple Keep it simple
Don’t stress out over small details
It is what it is.
Don’t struggle to understand it, or think it should be different,
etc. just accept things the way they are with the family over the
Holidays (and every day for that matter);
T – Treat Treat every member of your family with respect, dignity and
allow them to express their opinions. You don’t have to agree with
them. Just let it be. Does it really matter who is right or wrong?
M – Merry Make is a very Merry Christmas and Holiday Season. You have the
power to change your mind, thoughts, words and actions;
A – Aware and
Appreciation Be aware of your attitude. Is it kind and loving -- or is it critical
and unkind? Do you really appreciate that family member? Really
think about it. Even if you don’t like the person, you can at least
be civil to him or her;
S - Simple Keep it simple. Does it really matter who is right or wrong,
correct or incorrect. Ask yourself will this really matter 6
months to a year from now? If the answer is ‘NO’, then let it go.
P – Peace
Maker Make peace where there is none. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Live
and let live;
U – Uniting Bring people (family members) together and encourag them to be
united in pace, joy and love;
N- Now Live in the NOW – This is really all we have. Yesterday is History;
Tomorrow in a Mystery; and Today is a gift that is why we call it
the present. You can also say yesterday is a Cancelled Check;
Tomorrow is a Promissory Note; Today is all the cash we have;
C – Change Be ready and embrace change. Everything changes. Change is good,
once your get over the fear of the unknown;
H - Happiness Spread Happiness wherever you go. It is up to you to get up in the
morning and be happy or to get up in the morning and be unhappy and
depressed. It is your choice. Choose Happiness and spread it
everywhere, like Magic Happy Dust! Practice smiling instead of
frowning. A smile is just a frown turned upside down.

Enjoy your Christmas Season and New Year! Remember the best gift of all is the gift of YOU!

CHRISTMAS HOLIDAYS

Christmas can be a wonderful time and yet it can also be a very sad time of the year. It is all a matter of thought, words, actions and attitudes.

In this article I include ideas on how to create the best ever Christmas presents even if you don't have a single cent in your pocket!

I dare you to read this whole message, and really utilize some of the suggestions and still have a lousy Christmas!!!

You cannot change the entire world, but you can change your corner of it, one loving thought at a time, one kind act at a time and one smile at a time and allow this kindness to ripple out in all directions. You can spread joy, courage and hope to many others through the ripple effect. Please remember and say—

The Serenity Prayer:

Lord help me to change
The things I can
Not the things I cannot
And grant me the wisdom
To know the difference!

It has been proven than one person can make a difference. This Christmas Holiday Season, please make a conscious decision and effort to make a difference in your part of the world.

Let us challenge each other...

It is my hope that I have shared some positive strategies and ideas with you in this message to give you, your family members and friends the Affirmation Tools to help cope at this holiday season and any time.

It is not what happens to us in life that counts; it is how we handle what happens to us that counts.

This article is my Christmas Gift to you, all wrapped up with my love, hope, joy and God's richest blessings just for you!

Love and Many Affirmation Blessings
Dr. Anne Marie Evers