ARTICLE FOR CHRISTMAS 2009

64 Tips To Having a Cheerful Christmas and New Years No Matter What! By Dr. Anne Marie Evers


1.
Take advantage of all the FREE activities during he Christmas Season.This can be a lot of fun and it takes the stress of thinking that you can’t afford it. Check out newspapers, flyers, etc. to see where and when.

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Decorate your house. Bright cheery decorations have a way of encouraging happiness. Start your own Family Christmas Tradition.

3.
Be organized and have a back up plan when asking people to bring items for the Christmas Dinner. For Example--if you ask someone to bring the cranberries, have some cranberries on hand just in case they forget. This little hint can make your life easier.

4.
Do things together as a family. Invite family members to help set the table for Christmas dinner. Pick out your Christmas Tree and decorate it together. Use the Sandwich Method to get family to participate. One slice of praise –what you want them to do --- and the other slice of bread which is And you are such a good person and wonderful family member, I just know you want to do this, don’t you agree?

5. Give the Gift of SHARE
S - Smile
H - Hope
A - Attitude
R - Real
E – Empathy

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Refrain from being focused on what gifts that you are receiving.

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Don't ruin your Christmas holidays by spreading gloom to others because you are unhappy that you did not get the gift you wanted for Christmas. There is another Christmas coming next year. Be happy with the gifts that you receive.

Speaking of Gifts -- Enjoy the greatest gifts of all at Christmas

Watching children sit on Santa's knee
Watching your children or grandchildren on Christmas morning
Having a chat with a friend
Giving that busy Christmas shopper the gift of your smile
Just sharing a cheery greeting to another

8
When irate family members try to ruin your Christmas, just say, "Cancel, cancel, or Delete, delete that’s not true for me, I am happy," and never allow that negativity to go into your mind (computer) and you won't have to deal with it.

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Teach your children that giving is a part of receiving.

10
Count your blessings and focus on them--the wonderful people and the good things in your life. Get up every morning and say, “Thank you God, Universal Mind, Higher Power or whomever you believe it. For this wonderful day and all my blessings, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you and live in attitude of gratitude.

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Give the gift of LOVE –
Visit that shut-in person
Offer your help in shopping
Offer baby sitting services
House Cleaning
Bake
Cook Christmas Dinner for shut-in and people that need help

12.
Keep doing your Affirmations during this time. A good one would be --"I am happy and peaceful."

13.
Don't beat yourself up with 'could haves, should haves, why didn't I's' etc. and Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff. Is it chatter does it matter?

14.
Put on and wear your 'Special Christmas Smile.'

15.
Be prudent and do not overspend just because a person wants a special expensive present for Christmas. Be realistic.

16.
One of the best gifts you can give others is to love, respect and approve of yourself. This then gives them permission to do the same. Give the gift of YOU!

17.
Take your happiness OFF lay-away. Enjoy it now.

18.
Practice Random Acts of Kindness.

19.
Give to the Empty Stock Fund, Food Bank, Salvation Army and other such organizations.

20.
Help out at a Soup Kitchen in your neighborhood. It is very therapeutic and rewarding.

21.
Take time for a bubble bath or for men a brisk shower

22.
Take time to read something positive. You may want to turn off the TV and not read the Newspaper during this positive, festive time.

23.
If you live alone, make yourself a special meal.

24.
Beauty is everywhere--take time to find it.

25.
Remember that even when life looks its blackest, there are still wonderful things around us if we choose to focus on them. THIS TOO SHALL PASS

26.
Be clear and focus on what is most important and release all else.

27.
Do a check to see what you have been focusing on. If it is negativity, change it immediately.

28.
Help a family members and friends paint or decorate his or her home.

29.
Give a Gift Certificate entitling the bearer to 10 complimentary rides, wherever they wish to go.

30.
Give to the Christmas Hampers. And invite that person who is alone at Christmas to share in your Christmas festivities. Invite a handicapped person or any person for a ride and show them the bright, beautiful Christmas Decoration.

31.
HOME MADE GIFTS -- Knit a warm sweater, scarf or mitts for a homeless person.
And make home made Christmas Gifts teaching children how to do this as well. I always feel that home made gifts are so very special because it says to me that that person took the time, energy and made it especially for me!

Make a Christmas Album for Family
Bake a cake
Make fudge

Home Made Christmas Affirmation Bracelets
GREEN – Money
BLUE - Healing
LOVE - Pink
Purple/White – Spirituality
ORANGE – Energy

Or mix the beads up with all colors.
It is your choice.
Home made Christmas Decorations - string popcorn, etc.
Remember the Real Gift is Y O U !

Wrap a candle in newspaper
Wrap a candle in nice wrapping
Have 2 people open them and see what is inside.

In spite of all the outer wrappings, action, etc. is the real you – the greatest gift of all!

32.
Yield the right of way to another driver.

33.
When you begin to get impatient, stop and say to yourself, "If I react in a native angry manner what effect could that have on that person's life?"

34.
Give honest appreciation. A little bit of appreciation goes a long way, especially during these busy, hectic Christmas Shopping days.

35.
Be extra aware of others and their feelings.

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If a person is grumpy, do not jump to the conclusion that it is aimed at you or take it personally, just know that he or she may have something going on in his or her life that is irritating, annoying or they could be experiencing worry or some physical pain or discomfort.

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Do some Christmas forgiving - if you're not sure how to do that checkout my book - some call me "A Master of Forgiveness" - the key to letting go and being happy - you only hurt yourself if you don't forgive.

38.
Forgive that family member that you are upset with.

39.
Focus on how you can improve yourself and your life - Tell yourself those things are getting better right here, right now
Make a list of 10 things you can do right now to improve your life.
Then read it over, study it and then DO IT!

40.
Go to church.
Some churches have the Christmas Tree Method,made up of members of the choir standing in a particular place with a lit candle that creates the form of a gigantic
bright, lit up Christmas Tree. It is a beautiful sight to see.

Enjoy hearing and seeing the Christmas Story being acted out with Joseph, Mary and the Baby Jesus in the Manger, the shepherds, etc.

41.
Be amongst people- Family and close friends.

42.
Bring in Christmas smells, like the fresh smell of pine trees, and scented candles.

43.
Bake together with your family. – and Sing Carols together.

44.
Do an Affirmation for a Happy Christmas Holiday. Take a picture o of your whole family (when they were happy) and put it on a piece of paper and under it write. Every member of my family including myself are all considerate, kind, happy, peaceful and harmonious and we enjoy wonderful family gatherings together to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
I fully accept
Signed ____________________ Dated __________________
Try and get every member of the family to sign it. Keep it were it is visible and every one can see it. Remember your mind takes in every word and does not differentiate between a real and imagined event.

45.
It is important to spend time with people, but there are times when it is not possible and in a situation like that it is good to experience what being with yourself is like.

Pay attention to you breath, look outside at the moon, other people. Most of all become comfortable with yourself. You need alone time to get acquainted with YOU--the most important person in your world!

46.
Enjoy some quiet time. Read book, listen to music, nourish your soul, do things that are comforting to you.

47.
Light a candle and watch it burn. Use pink for love, red for energy
Green for peace and prosperity, white for spriritual and blue for health.
Burn one candle at a time and focus on the flame and your intention and wish.

48.
Meditate.—If you have never meditated before, keep it simple.
Clear your mind, Find a quiet place, close your eyes and say one word over and over. That word is peaceful peaceful. When other thoughts come just allow them to come and go while focusing on that powerful word peaceful. I do it all the time and it works great for me.

49.
Ask The Christmas Angel to be with you and your family and your time together at Christmas. The name of the Christmas Angel that I communicate with is Angelica

50.
Do not be so worried about buying Christmas gifts. Christmas is not all about gifts; it is also about family and friends being together sharing, caring and enjoying happy fellowship.

51.
Stop focusing on what you are getting for Christmas spend more time around the Tree and singing family carols, etc.. Think of ways you can ease another’s burdens or load. What can I do to help that person? When you see a person sitting on the street begging for money and if you wish to donate, gently bend down and with love give that gift. I have seen people standing and throwing or dropping money at a person and I think to myself – But for the Grace of God there go all of us.

52.
Loving self-- Be a love magnet to the right people and right circumstances Give the Gift of yourself!

53.
Decide to be happy Get up in the morning and say, "Today, I am happy."

54.
Have a budget when spending at the Holiday Season and stick with it and don't overspend. If you do, you may find yourself suffering from the January Blues!

55.
Call an old friend you have not talked to lately. Practice Empathic Listening. We were given two ears and one mouth at birth. Listen and really hear what that person is saying. Do not be so focused on what you are going to say next that you do not hear what they are saying.

56.
Realize that there are ups and downs and rhythms and go with that rhythm and let yourself relax and be who you are.

57.
When disappointed with the actions of others, look at what your expectations are. Then ask yourself,"Is this reasonable, why does it have to be that way?"
Am I too rigidly attached to my old beliefs and expectations?"
If the answer is 'yes', you can change all that today!

58.
Think about things in a different way. Be open to new possibilities. Don't expect too much of others or expect them to act as you do.Expand your mind. Be open to learning new things.

59.
Do the Magic Magnetic Circle Process

Magic Magnetic Christmas Circle Exercise

Get up in the morning, stretch, take several deep breaths, breathing out negativity and breathing in positivity, happiness, peace and joy. Stand in front of the window and with both your arms outstretched from your sides, turn slowly around from left to right (clockwise) and say,

"I, (your name), now magnetize from the sun, moon, stars and the entire Universe into my Magic Magnetic Circle peace, joy, love, health, happiness and prosperity to myself, which extends to everyone I meet. This is done to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you."
And so it is!

Then go on about your day and really see and feel how different you experience your daily life. Let me know how it goes...

60.
When you are upset with a situation, say to yourself, "This too, shall pass." These words have helped me through many a crisis and unhappy situation in my life.

61.
Go out doors --Go for walk--Get fresh Air. You never know what you will see -you may see something that renews, encourages, gives you hope, and makes you happy.

62.
If you are where there is snow--Have a fun sleigh ride together enjoy, laugh and have fun. Make a Snow Angel. Make a Snowman, Santa Claus and Mrs. Claus and the Elves--enjoy.

63.
Enjoy a hot chocolate in front of the fireplace.

64.
Look for and enjoy the wonderful, free things of life. Stop and enjoy AND bless a pretty flower, tree, mountain, stream or any of God's Creations. Enjoy nature, parks, creeks, mountains, the air we breathe the sun, etc.

Hug a Tree and see what happens. When I do this, I actually feel the tree hugging me back!!!

Show different types of HUGS

A Special Affirmation for Christmas and New Years

"I, (your name), deserve and now am happy and fulfilled. I greet every day with excited expectancy and enthusiasm. I am grateful to be alive and present here on planet earth at this time. I do my Magic Magnetic Circle Method daily and bring my heart's desires to me.

I share my happiness and prosperity with others. I know that to be prosperous, I must help others prosper too! I am loving, kind and at peace. I practice Random Acts of Kindness on a daily basis. I am loved by the special people in my life. I am loving and lovable.

I forgive and let go of all negativity, unhappiness, disappointment and hurts from the past and I now walk into my circle of happiness. I make this Christmas, Holiday Season and New Year of 2006 the best ever! I am alive,

I am here, present in the now and I count. I am happy and fulfilled to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you."
I fully accept
Signed _____________________Dated ________________

When you date and sign this Master Affirmation, you have made a firm and binding contract with Your Higher Self, God, Creator, Universal Mind or whomever you believe it.

A FURTHER WORD ABOUT HARMONY
OVER THE HOLIDAY SEASON

Take a family picture of everyone looking happy.
Under that picture write.

Our family deserves and now is healthy, happy and harmonious and enjoy family gatherings to the good of all parties concerned. Thank you, thank you, thank you.
We fully accept

Get as many members of your family to sign this Master Affirmation.
Place is where everyone can see it. Your subconscious mind takes in every detail and stores it for all time. You see the subconscious mind does not differentiate between a real and an imaged event.

CHRISTMAS SPRAY

Get a small spray bottle, fill it with water and a fragrance. With masking tape write on it – Special Christmas Cheer. Spray your home before your guest arrive. If you become negative spray your negative thoughts.

Make it real.

Have a family Meeting
Have a family meeting even when members of the family are not present. I know this sounds strange, but it really really works.

Do the Photograph Exercise of talking to a picture

Talk to each member, stop be quiet and really listen with your inner ear to what each one is saying.

I would suggest anyone experiencing difficulties with family members and getting together at this time of year FIRST deal with SELF.

Have a very Happy, Joyous, Peaceful, Loving Christmas and Holiday Season.

With love and many warm Affirmation Blessings
Dr. Anne Marie Evers