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Tuesday, September 19, 2006

Relationship Puzzle

Attracting that special relationship is similar to putting a jigsaw puzzle together. Challenges are only pieces of the larger puzzle. You may need to find solutions to each part of it. Even the smallest piece of the puzzle is important and, if it is missing, the whole puzzle is incomplete. When you are working on solving the whole puzzle, this often involves other people and situations.

All relationships require work, trust, loving kindness and consideration. How much energy and loving kindness are you prepared to put into your relationship finding? How important is your puzzle? Put your very own relationship puzzle together piece by wonderful piece today. Problems are only pieces of the larger puzzle and you may need to find the solution to each part.

It is important to keep in mind that you must never force a person to commit to you. It has to be his or her decision. It is important to get agreement from each party before fitting that piece into the main part of the puzzle.

When involved in the Relationship Puzzle you are always searching for the right pieces. Carefully examine each one. Perhaps it contains a lesson you need to learn. Can you see that a loving Relationship Puzzle cannot contain seeds of dishonesty, mistrust and betrayal? Even if a piece looks to you as if it will fit perfectly, but when you place it next to the other piece, you may discover that it does not.

If this happens, it is time to take a look at yourself and discover exactly what you desire. If it is a small piece, (a little anger or resentment) and you think you can ignore it or leave it out, think again as your puzzle will never be complete without all the pieces. As you pick up each piece, gaze at it intently and ask for the correct answer. Then ask if there are any lessons or information that you need to know in order to proceed. If the answer is yes, sit quietly and listen. In the case of the fear of commitment piece of the Relationship Puzzle, you may have the puzzle shaping up just great, but when it comes time to place that piece, you cannot get it to fit. Then it is time to go within and do some soul searching.

Ask if it time to forgive, dissolve and release any blocks from previous relationships. Also ask yourself what it is that you really desire. You may need to curb your possessive ways or streak of jealousy. It could be that the person, (piece) that you are trying so desperately to fit into the puzzle, may not be the right person for you at all! Go within and ask yourself. Your inner guide or Higher Self is the superglue that holds the pieces of the inner you in place.

Find and mark the fitting pieces, “Healthy, happy, independent, kind, balanced, loving, generous, faithful, kind, caring, financially independent, nice appearance and more. When you put all the pieces together you may discover that the person you are doing it for is the right person for you, but needs a few minor adjustments. We can never change others, but we can change this way in which we view them and most often they sense the change in you and they respond accordingly. Ask yourself how much you are willing to compromise.

Then do a Relationship Puzzle for yourself and find out what kind of mate you are, or will be. You may also discover some values or desirable qualities are missing. You can then develop them by embarking on AM-CAM. Before you start this program it is important to prepare yourself. First and foremost forgive everyone and everything that has ever hurt you. Then forgive yourself and feel in your heart that you are forgiven. Then say, “I, (your name) now love, respect and approve of myself just the way I am.” Emotion is very powerful.

Everything in life involves relationships. You were in a relationship with yourself the day you were born. You are in a relationship with everyone and everything, your computer, car and even your pencils, but the most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself. It is important to honour who you are. A great two-person relationship can enhance your life, but it cannot make it complete on its own. Any unresolved emotional issues need to be dealt with before you are ready to engage in a healthy, balanced, loving relationship with another person. Successful, loving, happy relationships do not just happen! They take loving kindness, work and respect.

If you are lonely or have fear of living alone, it is important to first focus on healing you, rather than searching for someone to fill that need. Everyone has basic needs for food, clothing, shelter and living necessities, but a need in a relationship indicates a gap in your own life and only you can fill such a need. If it is not, your relationship will be unhealthy, unfulfilling and probably short lived. A needy love is a false love. The less you need someone the more capable you are of loving him or her.
You may find it very interesting to complete the Questionnaire below.

Do it and have fun!

You may just learn something important about yourself and your Special person.

Search for That Perfect Person Questionnaire
This Questionnaire shows you what type of person you are searching for, dating, or involved with in a marriage or relationship. It can prove very helpful. It can clarify your present relationship or the desired one
Questionnaire (______________________)

(Name of Person)
You may wish to photocopy this page and use it for testing other people and yourself. Choose a number from 1-10 to rate him or her, number: ______

Physically fit
Smart dresser
Watches television
Quiet Evenings
Eating Habits
Financially independent
Money Management
Treats other people
Healthy self-love
Healthy self-respect
Relationship With Children
How He or she treats you
Emotional health
Healthy attitude to sex
Work habits
Keeps promises
Overly worried
Involvement in politics
General interests
Honours commitments

Is He or She any of the Following?
Good Lover


Good Dancer

How would you rate him or her (present person)?

For example, a man who is very loving:
Loving E 9

A woman who is overly worried:
Worries F 5

Doing this test will give you a clear picture of the type of person you are with. Then you can decide whether or not you are happy with them. If you are not happy with the results, ask for changes or it may be time to leave this relationship and begin another. It is important to be totally honest. You may also wish to do this test using yourself as the subject.

“Affirmations When Properly Done Always Work!”